NOT-ME! Provides Self-Defense Strategies

College towns and campuses are often targets for rapists, muggers, and other dangerous criminals.  A few weeks ago,  a man tried to kidnap a female student at a local university as she walked to her dorm.  Luckily, a campus security officer was nearby and heard her screams, but some situations don’t have such a fortunate ending.  Would you know how to protect yourself in a similar situation?  NOT-ME!, Inc. is a non-profit organization founded by Erik Kondo.  It offers self-defense strategies for people at a disadvantage to their attacker.   Anyone from college students to older adults can benefit from the self-defense techniques Eric teaches. Below, I’ve listed some of the strategies Erik writes about in his booklets.  For more self-defense strategies, including Erik’s complete booklets, visit .

The 5 D’s of Self Defense

Erik organizes the various self-defense tips and strategies into five categories.  This framework helps students be more prepared.

DECIDE —  Planning, education, training, and acceptance of risk are important, yet often overlooked.  Examples of actions taken during the decide phase include deciding to take a self-defense class, deciding to always lock your doors and deciding never to be taken to a second location.

DETER – This phase involves deterring a potential aggressor by adopting appropriate body language, and setting boundaries.  Yelling “back off!” can be enough to deter a someone from following through with plans to attack.

DISRUPT –  Disrupt is the phase you probably think about when you hear self-defense advice.  However, as Erik points out, it is only part of the framework of self-defense.  This phase is intended to create an opportunity to escape.  Hitting, biting, kicking and stomping are examples of disrupting actions.

DISENGAGE – After you disrupt an attack by any means necessary, use the opportunity to escape.

DEBRIEF – The final stage involves minimizing the long-term consequences of an attack by seeking help as soon as possible.  This may involve calling the police, going to a hospital, consulting a lawyer, and/or seeing a counselor.

Physical Assertiveness:

The goal of physical assertiveness is to prevent and stop an attack.  It is intended to minimize the need for more  dangerous or aggressive actions such as hitting or using a weapon.

1.  Physical Positioning

  • Maintain a five foot distance between you and a potential aggressor.
  • Raising open hands in front of the body, palms forward and arms bent at a 90 degree angle is an effective defense posture.

2.  Communication

  • Stop” “back off” and “no” are all effective commands to be used in addition to physical positioning

3.  Physical follow-through

  • If physical positioning and communication aren’t enough to stop an attacker, physical actions may be necessary to reinforce verbal commands.
  • Physical follow-through is intended to stun an aggressor and create space to allow for escape.
  • Striking an aggressor’s forearm with the heel of your free hand, creating space by shoving/pushing the aggressor’s inner shoulder joint are examples of physical follow-through.


Physical Assertiveness: Proactive strategies for deterring the onset of violence. by Erik Kondo.

The NOT-ME! Strategy of Self-Defense by Erik Kondo.

Making Sense of Self-Defense by Erik Kondo

2 thoughts on “NOT-ME! Provides Self-Defense Strategies”

  1. It’s wise for women on college/university campuses to take a rape prevention class as well. Women are 90% less likely to be effectively raped when they have taken themselves through the mental preparation of how they would respond – just in case. Here’s a list of my just-in-case purse items at the bottom:

  2. Kellene,

    Thank you for the information. Also, many universities offer rape prevention and self-defense classes for free to students.

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