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Job Search: Coping with Fear of Rejection

<p><img class&equals;"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-2243" src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;wp-content&sol;uploads&sol;2010&sol;07&sol;dreamstime&lowbar;132110191-200x300&period;jpg" alt&equals;"dreamstime&lowbar;13211019" width&equals;"200" height&equals;"300" &sol;><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Job hunting is tough &&num;8211&semi; often harder than a job itself&period; One of the worst parts about searching for a job is rejection&period; If you&&num;8217&semi;re looking in a tight job market or don&&num;8217&semi;t have a lot of experience&comma; you may face even more rejection than usual&period; Sometimes job seekers have or develop a fear of rejection&period; You may not have been rejected before&comma; or you may have faced too much rejection in your life&period; Whatever the reason for your fear of job search rejection&comma; it can be overcome&period; Read on for some ways to overcome your fear and land a job&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Practice Confidence<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>How can you practice confidence&quest; While self-confidence does come more easily for some people&comma; gaining confidence can be done&period; Start by going over all of your accomplishments and skills&comma; even if they seem insignificant&period; Write them down&comma; as if you&&num;8217&semi;re creating a big <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;tailoring-resume-each-job-listing&sol;">resume<&sol;a> for any job for which you might apply&period; If it&&num;8217&semi;s a hobby&comma; write it down too&period; This isn&&num;8217&semi;t a real resume &lpar;although it might prove helpful in creating one later&rpar;&comma; it&&num;8217&semi;s a list just for you&period; Talk about one of your accomplishments or skills to someone when you get the chance&period; You don&&num;8217&semi;t have to brag&comma; just bring it up naturally in conversation&period; It may help to lead off talking about your job search&comma; then talk about your skills and achievements&period; A lot of people who lack self-esteem never want to talk about themselves or what they have achieved&period; One conversation is the first step to acquiring confidence&period; Continue to do this with different people&comma; circling out from your closest friends and family&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Meet New People<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Meeting new people offers you the chance to practice talking to someone that doesn&&num;8217&semi;t know your history&period; It also forces you to feel a little uncomfortable and nervous&comma; which you&&num;8217&semi;ll also feel during the job search process&period; Join a Meetup group or your local Toastmasters&period; Learn how to introduce yourself while smiling and looking people in the eye&period; It may take time to be confident in doing this&comma; but practice will help&period; You may even make some important connections that will help with your job search&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Apply&comma; Apply&comma; Apply<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Applying for jobs can be scary&period; The end result is often rejection&period; But you won&&num;8217&semi;t learn to deal with rejection if you don&&num;8217&semi;t keep experiencing it&period; Once you learn to face rejection head-on&comma; you can bounce back more quickly and increase your chances of job search success&period; The first few times will be the hardest&comma; and the more you invest in a position &lpar;interviews&comma; etc&rpar;&comma; the more it will hurt&period; But you&&num;8217&semi;ll learn that getting a job isn&&num;8217&semi;t usually easy and there is nothing wrong with you&comma; it&&num;8217&semi;s just a matter of odds&period; They can only pick one&comma; even if they have numerous highly qualified candidates&period; So not applying due to fear of rejection decreases your odds of being picked for a job&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Stay Busy<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>One way to deal with your fears is to stay busy&period; If you&&num;8217&semi;re busy&comma; you have less time to think about what might happen&period; Start a blog&comma; volunteer&comma; or take up a hobby&period; Don&&num;8217&semi;t wait around to be rejected and don&&num;8217&semi;t let the job search become your life&period; Find meaning in something outside of your career&comma; and the rejection won&&num;8217&semi;t be as big a blow to your self-worth&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>You&&num;8217&semi;ll always hate being rejected&comma; but you can learn to face rejection without so much fear and move on quickly&period; Once you&&num;8217&semi;ve learned how to cope with rejection&comma; your chances of finding a job will increase&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><span style&equals;"border-radius&colon; 2px&semi; text-indent&colon; 20px&semi; width&colon; auto&semi; padding&colon; 0px 4px 0px 0px&semi; text-align&colon; center&semi; font&colon; bold 11px&sol;20px 'Helvetica Neue'&comma;Helvetica&comma;sans-serif&semi; color&colon; &num;ffffff&semi; background&colon; &num;bd081c no-repeat scroll 3px 50&percnt; &sol; 14px 14px&semi; position&colon; absolute&semi; opacity&colon; 1&semi; z-index&colon; 8675309&semi; display&colon; none&semi; cursor&colon; pointer&semi;">Save<&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><span style&equals;"border-radius&colon; 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