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Dealing with a Workplace Bully

<p><img class&equals;"aligncenter wp-image-5582" src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;wp-content&sol;uploads&sol;2013&sol;02&sol;dreamstimefree&lowbar;71764-1024x768&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"600" height&equals;"450" &sol;><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Whether it&&num;8217&semi;s a jealous coworker that tries to undermine you or a supervisor who loves to yell&comma; you&&num;8217&semi;ll likely deal with a workplace bully at some point in your career&period; You may have a great job otherwise&comma; but a single individual can make going to work everyday a dreadful experience&period; Luckily&comma; there are a few things you can do to mitigate the damage inflicted by negative people&period; Read on for some tips for dealing with difficult personalities at work&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Avoid When Possible<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>If the bully isn&&num;8217&semi;t a close co-worker or supervisor&comma; you might be able to avoid the person entirely&period; You can be civil when contact must be made&comma; but otherwise pretend the person doesn&&num;8217&semi;t exist&period; Keep conversations strictly about work&comma; and ignore rude comments&period; Bullies love to upset their targets&comma; and they&&num;8217&semi;ll thrive on your discomfort&period; Once they realize you aren&&num;8217&semi;t being sucked into their game&comma; they&&num;8217&semi;ll likely move on&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Set the Record Straight<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Some coworkers or supervisors may attempt to sabotage you by lying&comma; placing blame or taking credit for your accomplishments&period; To avoid starting an argument&comma; calmly talk to the person in private and give them a chance to tell the truth on their own&period; Most bullies are cowards that hate being called on their behavior&comma; so asserting yourself may be enough to set them straight&period; If the individual is argumentative and you know confrontation would lead to a bigger issue&comma; speak to your supervisor about the situation&period; It is crucial to document everything&comma; which leads to the next point&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Leave a Paper Trail<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>When you&&num;8217&semi;re dealing with a negative situation involving a coworker&comma; it&&num;8217&semi;s important to document each interaction&period; Emails are preferable because it&&num;8217&semi;s much harder for your coworker to lie about something that can be saved&period; You may also want to cc or bcc your boss to keep him or her in the loop on very important projects&period; Write down details of verbal interactions&comma; including the time&comma; who was present&comma; and exactly what was said&period; Keep your records in a safe place where they can&&num;8217&semi;t be accessed by anyone else&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&lbrack;wpedon id&equals;&&num;8221&semi;11354&&num;8243&semi; align&equals;&&num;8221&semi;center&&num;8221&semi;&rsqb;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>When Your Boss is the Bully<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>A bullying boss presents a sticky situation because you can&&num;8217&semi;t go to your supervisor and the company is more likely to side with someone higher up on the ladder&period; However&comma; your boss is likely treating coworkers in a similar fashion&comma; so you can observe more seasoned employees to learn the best ways to handle your boss&period; Some bosses just love to yell and are hypercritical&period; They likely won&&num;8217&semi;t change so you may need to decide whether or not this is an aspect of the workplace environment you can tolerate&period; If behavior is inappropriate and violates company policy&comma; it may be time to report it&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Reporting a Bully<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>When bullying is severe&comma; and you can&&num;8217&semi;t handle the situation on your own&comma; it&&num;8217&semi;s time to enlist help&period; It isn&&num;8217&semi;t a sign of weakness to report the bully&comma; and you shouldn&&num;8217&semi;t be afraid to reach out if behavior violates workplace policy&period; If you have a trustworthy supervisor&comma; speak to him or her first&period; A  one-on-one talk with the boss may be enough to calm your harasser&period; If that isn&&num;8217&semi;t an option&comma; speak to someone in your personnel or human resources department&period; Your employee handbook should cover the steps to take when reporting a coworker&period; Be sure to bring detailed records of what has occurred to demonstrate your reasons for reporting&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3>Moving On<&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Certain workplace situations become so unhealthy that it&&num;8217&semi;s best to find another position&period; Your boss or human resources may not be helpful&comma; because some managers don&&num;8217&semi;t have the ability or motivation to deal with a bully&period; Start looking for another job as soon as possible&comma; while continuing to document the behavior of your bullying coworker&period; Try not to leave on a negative note&comma; and do your best work until the end&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Every professional deals with negativity in the workplace to some extent&period; Unfortunately&comma; some workers even experience outright bullying&period; Many times these situations can be diffused by remaining calm and professional&comma; while avoiding the negative person as much as possible&period; But if the bullying or harassment is bad enough&comma; there is nothing wrong with getting the help you need to be a happy and productive employee&period; For more information on dealing with a workplace bully&comma; read <strong><span style&equals;"color&colon; &num;0000ff&semi;"><a href&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;amazon&period;com&sol;gp&sol;product&sol;1402224265&sol;ref&equals;as&lowbar;li&lowbar;ss&lowbar;tl&quest;ie&equals;UTF8&amp&semi;camp&equals;1789&amp&semi;creative&equals;390957&amp&semi;creativeASIN&equals;1402224265&amp&semi;linkCode&equals;as2&amp&semi;tag&equals;colcarlif-20"><span style&equals;"color&colon; &num;0000ff&semi;">The Bully at Work&colon; What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job<&sol;span><&sol;a><&sol;span><&sol;strong><img style&equals;"border&colon; none &excl;important&semi; 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