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My Career Does Not Define Me

<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; center&semi;"><img class&equals;"size-full wp-image-15146 aligncenter" src&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;wp-content&sol;uploads&sol;2020&sol;05&sol;motivational-quotes-760728&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"1000" height&equals;"665" &sol;>Photo by <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;pexels&period;com&sol;&commat;thngocbich&quest;utm&lowbar;content&equals;attributionCopyText&amp&semi;utm&lowbar;medium&equals;referral&amp&semi;utm&lowbar;source&equals;pexels" class&equals;"broken&lowbar;link">Bich Tran<&sol;a><&sol;strong> from <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;pexels&period;com&sol;photo&sol;motivational-quotes-760728&sol;&quest;utm&lowbar;content&equals;attributionCopyText&amp&semi;utm&lowbar;medium&equals;referral&amp&semi;utm&lowbar;source&equals;pexels" class&equals;"broken&lowbar;link">Pexels<&sol;a><&sol;strong><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>As a kid growing up in rural Mississippi&comma; I had big dreams of living in a city with a high powered career&period; I thought a great career would save me from my problems&period; It would give me a beautiful home&comma; an identity&comma; fulfillment and purpose&period; But as I grew older&comma; I found that no career on earth could give me all of those things&period; Doctor&quest; Too stressful&period; Scientist&quest; Too much worry over funding&period; Poet&quest; &&num;8220&semi;Not a real job&period;&&num;8221&semi; Speech therapist&quest; It&&num;8217&semi;s not <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;follow-your-passion-worst-career-advice&sol;">my passion<&sol;a>&period;<&sol;strong> Accountant&quest; Boring&period; After two bachelor&&num;8217&semi;s degrees&comma; a brief stint in grad school&comma; and taking multiple personality tests&comma; I still haven&&num;8217&semi;t settled on one career path&period; Sure&comma; I had a lot of <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;choosing-career-variety-interests&sol;">interests<&sol;a><&sol;strong>&period; But there was always something wrong with every career I considered&period; I&&num;8217&semi;ve had jobs&comma; but none were even close to that elusive &&num;8220&semi;dream job&&num;8221&semi;&period; Why&quest; Because there&&num;8217&semi;s no such thing as a perfect career&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3><strong>The Question<&sol;strong><&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>&&num;8220&semi;What do you do&quest;&&num;8221&semi; It&&num;8217&semi;s the first question people usually ask when meeting someone new&period; Even young children are asked what they want to be when they grow up&period; Society still tends to define individuals by their job titles&period; When someone answers this crucial question&comma; others can consciously or subconsciously make various judgments about that person&period; He or he is smart or dumb&comma; motivated or lazy&comma; creative or boring&comma; rich or poor&period; But it&&num;8217&semi;s becoming difficult for many to answer this simple question&period; People are <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;10-common-mistakes-career-change&sol;">changing careers<&sol;a><&sol;strong> much more frequently than in the past&period; It&&num;8217&semi;s also common to juggle multiple jobs to make ends meet&period; And some jobs&comma; such as <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;social-media-influencer-why-many-hate-them&sol;">social media influencer<&sol;a><&sol;strong>&comma; are hard to define and constantly evolving&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3><strong>Changing How and Why We Work<&sol;strong><&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>Not only is the world of work changing&comma; <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;assessing-career-values&sol;">values<&sol;a><&sol;strong> are shifting&period; A larger percentage of workers expect <strong><a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;thehappinessindex&period;com&sol;employee-engagement&sol;importance-of-work-life-balance&sol;">work-life balance<&sol;a><&sol;strong> from employers&period; They would choose more time off or a flexible schedule over a high salary or fancy job title&period; People want to work to live rather than living to work&period; Even for those who generally like their jobs&comma; it&&num;8217&semi;s important to have time off to pursue hobbies&comma; travel or spend time with family&period; After all&comma; what&&num;8217&semi;s the point of a big paycheck if you don&&num;8217&semi;t have time to enjoy it&quest;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<h3><strong>I&&num;8217&semi;m Not a Climber<&sol;strong><&sol;h3>&NewLine;<p>&&num;8220&semi;What do you do&quest;&&num;8221&semi; It&&num;8217&semi;s still hard to accept that I&&num;8217&semi;ll never be able to definitively answer that question&period; Currently I run a couple of websites and work at a college library part-time&period; I love both of these jobs&comma; but neither define me as a person&period; My identity is not tied to them&period; I would rather be known as an avid reader&comma; a writer&comma; an <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;creative-careers-introverts&sol;">introvert<&sol;a>&comma; a cat lover&comma; a good listener and a <a href&equals;"https&colon;&sol;&sol;www&period;collegecareerlife&period;net&sol;highly-sensitive-persons-self-care-tips-for-stressful-times&sol;">sensitive person<&sol;a>&period; Others my age might be high up on corporate career ladders while I&&num;8217&semi;m down on the ground&comma; but I have to ask myself if I really want to be up there with them&period; The answer is no&period; Because I just don&&num;8217&semi;t belong on a ladder&period; It&&num;8217&semi;s far from what I would have predicted 20 years ago&comma; but I&&num;8217&semi;m learning to be okay with that&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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